Forgiveness means you get your peace back
Here is an analogy on what forgiveness is versus what it is not, as well as what so many people falsely believe it is.
Let's say you have a home. A person comes in through the front door and ransacks your beautiful home and steals some things.
Forgiveness means that you clean up your house. You return your house to the best of your ability to a place of peace.
You can still charge them with the crime they committed and go to court, or you may decide to replace what was stolen on your own and not bother going to court.
You would most certainly kick them out if they were still standing there and lock the door and not let them come back in. To do otherwise would be setting yourself up for the same to happen again.
What most people falsely think forgiveness means is to pretend your home wasn't ransacked and that nothing was stolen. As if the perpetrator stood there after ransacking your home, said, "sorry," and you then let them come and go as they please because sorry is a password that allows them to ransack and steal at will.
People who falsely believe this is what forgiveness means then often get mad at the word forgiveness.
To get mad at the word forgiveness means to feel like it makes sense to leave your home ransacked and with things stolen. It doesn't help you and it doesnt punish them. It punishes you for what they did.
Instead of applying false forgiveness and continually being hurt, and instead of not understanding what forgiveness is and rallying against what someone believes it is, I would love for everyone to really understand what forgiveness is and give that gift to yourself as well as every good person who is in your life and comes into your life in the future. You and they deserve for your house-- which is your mind and your heart -- to be a beautiful and peaceful place that you can enjoy together.
This is why true forgiveness is for you. This is how true forgiveness sets you free.
Forgiveness only means to return your home to a place of peace. It does not mean to forget it was ransacked or to allow that same person to come in and do the same thing again.
- Doe Zantamata
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