Dealing with insults that are not true.
Common theory claims that for an insult to hurt, a person has to believe it’s true. But this is only valid from a self-centered point of view. The other type of harm comes from being on the receiving end of an accusation or insult that you absolutely know isn’t true. This harms the relationship. It makes you see that person differently. Their mind looked at you and saw ugliness that isn’t there. That tells you everything about their mind and does not reflect on you. There is shock and grief in this experience and realization. It's a sign to retract and protect yourself, as what this person believes about you is going to bring you down if you remain close and open to them. They believe what they believe, and attempts to educate or prove yourself to them will usually only make them double down. You don’t have to abandon them entirely, but do create distance and become somewhat cautious about what you share. We see action, n...
