Monday, January 16, 2017

Take the first step in faith


Take the first step in faith. You don't have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step.

-Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.

Monday, January 9, 2017

Change


Change can be a beautiful thing.

Saturday, January 7, 2017

Appreciating now


After a traumatic loss, you may be left with less but you can choose to appreciate what and who  you have now even more.
Make the most of now.
-Doe Zantamata

Sunday, January 1, 2017

Dealing with a chronic liar


Catching someone in a big lie won't prevent them from lying again. 

To stop lying, they'd have to develop integrity and confidence. Catching them humiliates them which lowers their confidence because it makes them feel stupid and inferior. 

When you realize you're dealing with a chronic liar, know that it has nothing to do with you and you can't fix it, but you have to distance yourself to the point where the lies can't hurt you anymore. 

If they realize there's no benefit to lying but it only pushes people away, it may eventually give them an incentive to stop. 

But that's a big if and you don't want to hold your breath waiting on it. 

You do need to use discernment. You don't have to go full no contact in all cases. 

With a friend, you may just be totally honest with them and tell them that you really can't trust them anymore but you really like them. Some good people may have had past trauma and use lies as a deliberate smokescreen to keep a distance from people they don't know well. 

As for a spouse or best friend...no...you really can't have a chronic liar as it will drive you mad and you'll always have anxiety when you need to rely on their word. It's damaging to say the least. Let go with love.

-Doe Zantamata

Author of "Happiness in Your Life, Book One: Karma"

Saturday, December 31, 2016

Meeting Anger


If you want to win against passionate anger, you cannot meet it with opposite passionate anger, nor can you go silent. 

You have to put your passion and loudest voice into what you love, what is right, and what you want to see in the world. 

Passion is emotion, and emotion drives expansion. 

Feed that vibrant energy and watch it grow. Get excited about how wonderful it is to be alive and to love in this world. 

Live with beautiful, dynamic intention. 


-Doe Zantamata

Author of "Happiness in Your Life, Book One: Karma"