Forgiving Yourself for Not Seeing Things Sooner

If you don’t forgive yourself for not seeing something sooner or acting on it sooner, you’re going to hold that regret inside. 

Whenever you see someone remotely doing something similar, you’ll risk being sent into a panic and not only try to warn them, but try to hit the gas pedal on their choices to do what you wish you had done. 

Though your intentions are beautiful, you’ve got to remember their life isn’t your life and what you know of their situation may seem identical or very similar but you’re not seeing the whole picture. 

You can’t, it’s not your life. 

And it’s biased by your own regret. 

Forgive yourself for not knowing what you didn’t know before you learned it and express your experience but leave it there. Allow and encourage people to make their own decisions for their own lives, especially if they’re working through insecurity or fear. 

They have to be ready for a change, just like you had to be. 

-Doe Zantamata

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