Change in Time
Awareness of a problem doesn’t mean the problem is fixed.
Awareness is just the beginning.
From there, it has to be changed with conscious effort until it becomes a habit. Depending on how long the old pattern was in place, this could take months to years to master.
Don’t expect that if you point something out to someone that they will change it even though they are now aware and want to.
Change takes time.
If you’re not OK with how they are now, you may have to rethink this connection. Nobody likes to feel pressure even if it’s called encouragement.
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