Save it for the best
Don’t let the worst people get the best of you. Save it for the best people instead.
By Doe Zantamata
How many times do we let this happen every day? Why do we do it?
We let things that we can’t really do anything about bother us, and then allow them to spill over into time we have with people who didn’t upset us at all…thereby shaking up their peace, too.
For example, if you get cut off in traffic, or if there’s a lot of traffic, when you get to where you’re going, do you tell the first person you see that you’re mad because you got cut off or that there were thousands of people on the road?
Or at work, if a coworker does something that really riles you up, do you go to another coworker who is nice and tell them about it?
Or when you get home. Do you enjoy time spent with family, leave your troubles at the front door, or again bring in things that bothered you and tell them about it, too.
Now, looking for advice on a problem is one thing, but just grumbling for the sake of grumbling is another.
Those little annoyances that are either already done or you can’t really do much about…shake them off. Forget about them.
If you don’t, you will be living that negative experience over again, and you’ll be forcing someone else to live it the second time with you.
Imagine that each of us is in our own world. That world exists as soon as we come into contact with each other. If the dark, momentary world you were in with a mean person separates, don’t go and darken someone else’s world with that energy the moment you connect with them. Otherwise, you could be darkening their world, too, which they, in turn, could pass on to the next person they come into contact with after you.
If we really want to be happy, we have to find the good in every moment. If someone bothers you, insults you, or annoys you, just let it go as soon as it’s done. Be grateful that negative moment is over, and carry on. Be your best you as often as you can. You’ll keep your days brighter, and brighten other peoples’ days, too.
By Doe Zantamata
Learn more about relationship patterns and awareness in Doe's book, "Happiness in Your Life, Book One: Karma"