Save it for the best



Don’t let the worst people get the best of you. Save it for the best people instead.
By Doe Zantamata

 How many times do we let this happen every day? Why do we do it?

We let things that we can’t really do anything about bother us, and then allow them to spill over into time we have with people who didn’t upset us at all…thereby shaking up their peace, too.

For example, if you get cut off in traffic, or if there’s a lot of traffic, when you get to where you’re going, do you tell the first person you see that you’re mad because you got cut off or that there were thousands of people on the road?

Or at work, if a coworker does something that really riles you up, do you go to another coworker who is nice and tell them about it?

Or when you get home. Do you enjoy time spent with family, leave your troubles at the front door, or again bring in things that bothered you and tell them about it, too.

Now, looking for advice on a problem is one thing, but just grumbling for the sake of grumbling is another.

Those little annoyances that are either already done or you can’t really do much about…shake them off. Forget about them.

If you don’t, you will be living that negative experience over again, and you’ll be forcing someone else to live it the second time with you. 





Imagine that each of us is in our own world. That world exists as soon as we come into contact with each other. If the dark, momentary world you were in with a mean person separates, don’t go and darken someone else’s world with that energy the moment you connect with them. Otherwise, you could be darkening their world, too, which they, in turn, could pass on to the next person they come into contact with after you.

If we really want to be happy, we have to find the good in every moment. If someone bothers you, insults you, or annoys you, just let it go as soon as it’s done. Be grateful that negative moment is over, and carry on. Be your best you as often as you can. You’ll keep your days brighter, and brighten other peoples’ days, too.


By Doe Zantamata

Learn more about relationship patterns and awareness in Doe's book,  "Happiness in Your Life, Book One: Karma"



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    1. time to ponder . for our own self and loved ones . lets do it .

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  2. I'm sorry, no offense, but I don't like it. I think that people have a need to communicate and express their emotions... whether something is bothering them or not. If something bothers someone, just because they ignore it and don't talk about it doesn't mean that it won't continue to bother them. One of the ways in which people heal from tragic events is by talking. If I've had a bad day I always feel better if I talk about it... usually after I've discussed my day with someone, what upset me or bothered me no longer does. I think there is a difference between TALKING about things that happen and taking them out on someone. I think people need to be more conscious of how they relate events. I think it's ok to discuss things that happen with others, but not ok to take one's anger and frustration out on another.

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    1. Hi love, thank you for your comment and insight. There's a big difference between "ignoring" something that's bothering you, and using awareness and conscious direction of thought to let it go almost as quickly as it came.
      It takes practice to let things go that just don't really matter. Keep in mind to really value every moment of happiness, and don't toss a single one aside for no good reason.
      If you can sort things out and let them go faster on your own, you'll have more and more quality time to spend with those quality people.

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