To Judge or Not to Judge

We cannot fairly judge what we do not fully understand. We do not fully understand anything.
~Doe Zantamata
When you see an action, or even an inaction, that's witnessing. If you attach a reason or motivation behind someone else's action which is negative, that's judging. Judging says more about your beliefs about another person or the world at large than it does about that actual person or the world in truth.

We tend to judge more people who we don't know or don't like. People we like, or love, we either give them the benefit of the doubt, or ask them what their reason was for doing something.

One of the most common little judgements comes when someone does not call or text back. The only thing that is known is that they didn't call or text back. Reasons may be attached like, they don't think you're important, they can't be bothered to call back, they must be out cheating, or all sorts of reasons that exist only in the insecurities of the person who is not being called back.

Judgement is what we've trained our minds to do, and what we were trained to do in school. Use logic, connect the dots. So for most of us, it's not a matter of just not judging, but rather a matter or realizing when we are judging, and consciously deciding to suspend that judgement until more information can be gathered.

By doing so, you're actually giving everyone the benefit of the doubt, and preventing bad feelings from forming within yourself toward any person.
By Doe Zantamata

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