Changing Patterns with Conscious Choices
If you have good intentions, but your outcomes are consistently poor, you have to reflect on your methods and actions to make a change for the better.
Your methods and actions were chosen by your beliefs, and these beliefs may be ones that were ingrained into you at a young age.
Look at degrees, too.
For example, having the intention of being helpful but then taking the actions of full responsibility for something that is not your responsibility and it's not in your power to make final decisions.
Doing this will lead you to over exhausting yourself, burning out, trying to convince someone to do what you believe is the right thing for them, and being dismissed and not appreciated for all that you’ve done.
It’s a very defeating and powerless pattern.
And the more this pattern repeats, the sooner you will recognize when it starts to turn. This may at first make you believe that "all people take advantage of me," or "nobody appreciates me," which is the true outcome of the pattern, but it neglects to consider what you are contributing to its formation and where and how you can change it.
You can change it with conscious awareness and making new choices.
Recognize what is or isn't your responsibility. Know that being helpful doesn't have to mean diving head first into an all out rescue mission that nobody asked for but it's obvious to you that they need it.
Turn the tables around in your mind and imagine if they were you and you were them. Would you feel appreciative, or would you feel pressured and controlled? This one may be harder to see.
Make the best choices that you can with the wisdom you've earned from the past and with what's best for everyone --including yourself -- in your decisions.
This will lead to a new path.
-Doe Zantamata
This is actually what "Karma" really means. Intention + method = consequence. Or, thought + action = outcome.
There are 12 Laws of Karma. They all boil down to The Great Law; As you sow, so shall you reap. But Karma is so often misunderstood to just mean that good gets rewarded and bad is punished. That's not it. Karma is only about Choices, actions, and outcomes from those choices and actions. Learn all the basics of True Karma in Doe's book:
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