Be careful what you wish for...
|Be careful what you wish for because you just might get it!|
We've all heard this so many times, but have you ever really thought about what it means?
It is a life lesson in appreciation, envy, and truth.
1. In appreciation, it is a cautionary statement to remind you to be appreciative of what you have. Right here, right now. You and only you know every detail of your life. What others see is only an opinion formed by partial information. And even that is subjective. You have so many details if your life that what you focus on will seem like your "whole" life but it may not be. Over time, many people grow somewhat used to or complacent with great things that have been around for a long time. Even the gifts of sight, hearing, mobility, health…those things can go unappreciated and unnoticed until a day comes when they are not as good as they used to be. At that point, regret can set in when a person realizes they took for granted something so useful and beneficial for so long.
So re-appreciate your life. Beginning when you wake up. As if you've just landed in your body and everything is new. All the people who are in your life, your home, your body…see these gifts as they really are. Recognize your amazing life.
2. Envy is what happens when a person looks at another person's life and sees something or some things that they think are great things in a life and that they believe couldn't happen for themselves. People can envy money because of the nice things, nice trips, or freedom they seem to afford a person. But that's not always the case. Money for some people does not bring security, comfort, or freedom because of the way they view it. Or because no matter how much they have, they fear losing it all. But money does often bring envy from others. And others often then ask the person for money and become angry when they are not given it. So money, depending on who the person is can be a source of pain moreso that others would imagine.
A good relationship can also be a source of envy. But one good relationship has nothing to do with the ability or lack of ability for another person to have one of their own. Instead of seeing it as something rare and untouchable or trying to entice a partner to stray from it, they should develop their own selves into a loving, secure, aware human being. It is only then that their own true love will emerge, whether just by themselves or within a relationship. And other relationships from the outside may look perfect, but again it's only seeing a partial amount of the whole. Who knows, maybe there is great unhappiness or even deception within that relationship. One would hope not but it happens all the time.
If you ever feel envy, think about what it is that you don't believe can happen for you that you think so see happening for someone else. Realize that great things can happen to you once your attention is on your own life and off of the perception of others.
3. In truth. Truth is "the whole story." The only whole story we will ever know is our own in the first person. But it's only in living a life that was formerly viewed from the outside that we can learn the positives and negatives of any given situation. There are people who for a long time wish and wish to be married and have children and are completely unhappy in their single life. Then when they do get married and have children, they wistfully look back to the days when they had so much freedom and sleep and time of their own. They can't then fully appreciate what is right in front of them because they are only comparing the worst of now to the best of then.
So imagine you are the happiest person in the world. Appreciate your life, your body, your self, your home, friends and family. The country in which you live. The sunshine and the rain. Appreciate all that is before you and know the good of every moment. Because when you do…you really will be the happiest person in the world.
By Doe Zantamata
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