Foundation for the Future
Have you ever driven by a construction site and for the longest time it looks like a big mess but then overnight there's a huge framework for a building?
The foundation takes the longest time. It doesn't start at the surface. There's a lot of digging deep and pouring concrete, then time to let it cure.
Once that's all done, the plans that were made can be set in motion and things change quickly. After that come all the details and finishing touches.
It's no different than building a life.
If you've had past plans that ended up crumbling, they only add to your foundation. The lives we try to build in our 20s and 30s sometimes don't turn out at all, and the tendency is to wish for a better past.
But what you may have thought you wanted in the past often turned out not to be what you thought it would be after it happened. Forgive yourself for not knowing what you didn't know before you learned it.
That time was not wasted, just necessary to develop some concrete for the future. Looking at it this way allows you to drop regrets, and your whole future opens right up.
1. Dig deep and decide what you want and don't want.
2. Plan accordingly.
3. Continue to work on your foundation.
Things may appear the same from the outside, but all the while, you'll be changing. Be patient but persistent and sooner or later your whole life framework will appear.
Once built, details may change or be improved over time, but what will be built is a life true to you that cannot be taken away.